It Takes No Courage to Be the Cynic

An article entitled “Happy Daughters Day” – written by Elyse Fitzpatrick – was published this morning over at The Resurgence. After reading through it (twice), I must confess to being tremendously disappointed. I expected more of a writer of Fitzpatrick’s caliber. And believe me: that’s a statement I don’t make lightly.

My Mom has already written a response of sorts, so I’ll try not to waste time saying what has already been said. Also, I have schoolwork calling my name – it’s in my best interest to keep this short and sweet. So, here’s my half-cent:

First, I object to Fitzpatrick’s definition of Mother’s Day as “the Law” – a holiday that necessarily “breeds discontent and guilt.” To this I respond (with all due respect): Says who? I want to know why Mother’s Day must be viewed through such dark lenses. Why is this a given? I don’t doubt that there are some people who do look at it that way; what I want to know is why Fitzpatrick assumes most people look at it that way, as if it’s the only sensible and clear-headed position to take. Implicit in all of this is the idea that only the “enlightened” see Mother’s Day for what it really is: a day of guilt and glorified naval-gazing. Only the naive and the sentimental – the kind of people who watch the Hallmark channel – view it as something worth celebrating.

Second, I object to the way Fitzpatrick denigrates “honor” and “gift-giving”. She rightly observes that “we live in a sin-cursed world,” but goes on to say that “no matter how much we try to honor someone we love, it always seems to come out wrong. We can give the sweetest presents with the best intentions but still… it just never turns out like we hoped it would.” To begin with, “always” and “never” are strong words. And while it is true that I, being a sinner and living in a sinful world, cannot give gifts with perfect love and honor, why does it automatically follow that I cannot give gifts without any love or any honor? Can I not rejoice in honoring my mother – and in future, my wife – simply because it’s impossible for me to do it perfectly?

Third, I object to Fitzpatrick’s glib assumption that Mother’s Day is really “a celebration of our own goodness”. Again I respond: Says who? She points out that “any time you seek satisfaction, honor, and glory in yourself you’re going to be dissatisfied” and she’s entirely correct in saying this. But why must we think that Mother’s Day is about all of that? The pagan may think of it in those terms; I see no reason why the Christian should. The Christian realizes that the only glory he/she has is in the cross of Christ – that doesn’t make it sin to rejoice and celebrate the beauty of motherhood on a day like Mother’s Day.
It’s also worth mentioning that Mother’s Day isn’t simply about being a mother; it’s about being thankful for the mother God gave you. Everybody has one. As Sam Crabtree puts it, “The set of all people with no mothers is zero. The set of all people with mothers is everyone.”

I’m fully cognizant of the fact that Mother’s Day can be painful for some. And I don’t wish to be harsh or unfeeling. Paul tells us to “rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep”. Problem is, when it comes to Mother’s Day, it seems like we want to focus in on the second part of the admonition to the exclusion of the first. Are we called to have compassion, to encourage the discouraged and lift up the downtrodden? Of course. But that doesn’t mean we knock down the ones who are standing and tell them to keep their joy and thankfulness to themselves.

Nowadays, it takes no courage to be the cynic, the wet blanket, the ho-hummer, the forecaster of doom and gloom. It takes courage to stand up and say, “This is the day the Lord has made: let us rejoice and be glad!” Because the minute you do, somebody is going to play Eeyore.

10 thoughts on “It Takes No Courage to Be the Cynic”

    1. Me, too! I was all ready to give a big cheer at the end of the article, and then I was, like, “HEY!!” Don’t be dissin’ on Eeyore!! :-D

  1. I think Fitzpatrick was trying to write something coy, funny, different. I’m not impressed though.
    As you stated well, “Mother’s Day is about being thankful for the Mother God gave us.”
    My mother is in heaven. I am so thankful for the mother that God gave me. I’m so blessed that she loved Jesus. She taught me to be a wife, mother, grandmother, mother in-law, daughter in-law, sister, friend, lady, Christian—-all through her example.

  2. I’m inclined to think that tagging the term “the Law” on the noun “Mothers’ Day” is really a pretty dangerous thing. The Law is nothing more than a representation of the character of Yahweh and of His son. One does not look into Mother’s Day and continue to gain the knowledge of what kind of man he is. I understand what she’s trying to say, but I don’t think she has really thought it through very well.

    There are, of course, some ways in which Mothers’ Day is valuable in a ‘law-like’ way. Isn’t it actually a good thing to know where your discontents are? And if you’re a husband whose best efforts on Mothers’ Day are (you feel) under-appreciated, should it not really drive you to an understanding that you are somehow not husbanding your wife well? Those discontents aren’t only there on Mothers’ Day…they are there all the time…Mothers’ Day just lays them a little more bare. Maybe if they get flushed out into the open, they’ll get dealt with.

    Christ’s blessings on you, Corey.


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